Episode# 035: Break Free of Comparison + Scale Up Your Everything!

I have yet to meet anyone at any level that hasn’t encountered this problem…

Comparison.

It robs us of our joy, momentum, creativity and courage. But it’s a practiced habit.

So, what does that mean?

It means that we choose to compare even though it feels innate. We’ve learned this behavior and what that also means is if we choose otherwise, there’s so much more for us.

More happiness, drive, success, and life.

So, in this episode we’re talking about the dangers of comparison and what’s on the other side of it… and of course, some ways we can get there.

Want to know why I feel qualified to speak on this topic? Because I’m a master at it. I’ve chosen comparison over and over in my life and have become so keenly aware of it’s devastating effects.

In the last year or so, I’ve become SO aware that it’s actually driving me nuts. I’ve become obsessed with identifying when I’m comparing and have started actively setting out to reverse the trend because I KNOW with comparison doesn’t serve me (as a wife, mother, entrepreneur).

JOY

So, let’s talk about joy for a second…

We experience it only when we’re fully entrenched in a moment, without time for judgement or comparison of that moment. Joy and comparison can’t co-exist.

But what about when I’m comparing my life to someone who is worse off than me and I see that my life is great? That’s not joy. Joy is pure and doesn’t step on others to feel victorious. So no, even in that scenario, they don’t co-exist.

Has there ever been a time when you pin yourself up against someone else that you admire, and you FIRST reaction was joy? (NEVER?! Exactly)

CREATIVITY

There’s a magic inside you - your own compass and guide. Your gut, your God, your intuition that’s guiding you, that knows whether you’re on the right path.

When was the last time you did what YOU knew was right for you? Not what you thought would be perceived as right, not what you thought was right based on someone else’s standards, not what you wanted to be right… what you felt called to?

Nothing stifles my creativity more than looking at what someone else is doing. Even if I set out to get ideas or to be inspired, what ultimately happens is that whatever ideas or truths that were once my own are sculpted, even if it’s just slightly, by what someone else did. And as I craft my own thing, I start comparing it to someone else’s.

For this episode, I automatically went to my computer to Google this topic to see what other people were saying. I told myself it was to get ideas and inspiration - but the awareness kicked in and I stopped myself before I started because I knew that as soon as I saw someone else’s idea it would affect my own.

So, for creativity's sake, how can we avoid this pitfall? Go inward first.

Start creating! Start brain dumping, writing, drawing, exploring with your own eyes and creativity. Capture the image operating only on what YOU feel in that moment. Do the work first. And then as needed, go outward. See what you’ve got first.

MOMENTUM

Have you ever seen a sprinter look back?

Here’s what kills me…

I do this all the time and I see it in my mastermind members, my clients, and even my peers…

I’ll be in that mode of creation, pulling from the inside out, building up steam, creating something powerful, and then I go to get a pulse on what other people are doing and I just slashed one of my tires.

Stay in your lane

Set your own goals with their own meaning and stay committed to them.

I’ve created some of the best content when I’ve done it in a vacuum and some of the worst content when I’ve been trying to take a pulse of what’s going on around me.

Fill your newsfeed with what inspires you

Work on becoming secure enough to not be rattled by what you see

SUCCESS

How on earth can you compare your own level of success to someone else? You might define success completely differently? (plus, seeing the highlight reel - even when they share the tough stuff, they share it their way)

When was the last time you defined what success would look like for you? What YOU love? What YOU want? What a perfect day looks like.

Someone else’s perfect day might be your worst nightmare!

But here’s the deal - it’s not just coming from comparing yourself to others…

REMEMBER…. comparing yourself to yourself (a past version of yourself) can be just as dangerous

During postpartum, in your business, and in your marriage.