Ep# 065: What I'm Struggling With Right Now
This episode is a little bit out of my norm, but I felt called to speak on this.
It is so easy to listen to the show or scroll social media and assume that I, or anyone else that you're following in the online space, is just this well-oiled machine. It's easy to look at what other people are doing and compare. We start feeling like we're behind or missing out.
So I'm doing an entire episode today dedicated to what I'm personally struggling with right now because I want to do a better job at pulling back the curtain. We're all facing our own battles.
I also want to make it abundantly clear that going after the dream is hard. Let's stop acting like there's some magical destination! It’s about the process, it's about the practice, it’s about the calling that's on your heart. It's not easy or pretty or perfect and nobody out there has it all figured out. New levels, new devils.
So let's air some dirty laundry!
In this episode, I talk about:
Managing, juggling, and embracing motherhood and business
“To be totally forthright, business comes more easily to me. I’m more drawn to motherhood. I’m more passionate about motherhood. But I see more wins sometimes, at this particular stage in the game, in business. And what I mean by that is: I control it more.”
“I feel like I constantly have to say ‘No’. Because they’ll want to do something and I have a call scheduled, or they’ll want to come in my office and play and play right there on the floor next to my desk. I try to bend and flex as much as I can, because that’s the blessing of running your own business and why I built this, but I also have to be able to get things done.”
Missing My Family
“About a year and a half ago, we bought our dream property here in Wisconsin. But my family is out on the east coast. They’re all in one little bubble. Everybody stays rooted and planted together. They get together every Sunday, they’re together all the time in the summer...everybody is together, and that’s my village. That’s all I’ve ever known my entire life. I was not just raised by my mom and dad, I was raised by that village of aunts and uncles and cousins and great aunts and great uncles and grandparents.”
“I never in a million years thought I would miss them as much as I have over this last year and a half, and I also wouldn’t have imagined that it would have affected so many different areas of my life the way it has.”
“It has taught me to turn more toward my husband, and that’s such a gift. That’s what marriage is.”
Biting Off More Than I Can Chew
“This has been my M.O. forever. As soon as I get my head above water, I’m like ‘Oh, what else can we do?!’ I get Shiny Object Syndrome. I see what other people are doing, and I get inspired and I’m like, ‘Oh we can do that!’”
“Saying ‘Yes’ to so many things means saying ‘No’ to the important things sometimes, and I’m really starting to get more intentional about how I can not do that.”
“Now I can’t really bite off more than I can chew because I’m accountable for it. I have my husband, I have my team, and I have calendars. Things are in black and white. When I come to the table with my big visionary ideas, I have those people to bring me back down to earth and say, ‘How can we map it out so that it’s profitable and realistic and not stressful?’”
Struggling with Imposter Syndrome
“This is where I have to get better at looking at the facts: Who have I served up to this point and what results have they gotten? What is the transformation that I promise, and how often am I seeing that happen over and over because I’m really good at what I do?”
“Now I’m in new circles where people are advanced and moving fast and confident in what they do, and I’m just starting to feel it creep back in like, ‘Oh my goodness. Am I ready for this? Am I capable? Do people want me?”
“Just be humble enough to say, ‘Oh, that’s great! I really want to learn more about how you’re doing that.’ And just be open to learning and growing and not so worried about what other people think, and be more concerned with, ‘Am I stepping into my purpose? Am I living my calling? Am I making my impact?
Feeling Exhausted
“I want to play the long game. I want to optimize everything from my business to my marriage to parenthood to my health, even though it’s really freaking hard and there are days that are downright ugly.”
“The part that I can’t stand, that’s so hard for me, is when I have those days of severe exhaustion and fatigue. Because I know I’m doing the right things… But there are days where I have to listen to my body, I have to rest.”
Niching Down My Brand
“It’s not always super clear to me. And not everything we make or put out there is a hit. We flop a lot. I’ll put out an opt-in that I think you guys will find immense value in, and people don’t want it as much as I thought they would. Or I’ll launch a product and we don’t hit our profit numbers.”
“I can, and do, mentor people all day long in growth, in business, and life. But it’s so hard to do for yourself sometimes. I once heard someone say, ‘When you’re inside the wine bottle, you can’t see the label.’ And that’s how it feels sometimes!”
“The only way you’re going to scale your business is if you put things out into the world! Even if it sucks, even if it’s a C-, even if it doesn’t feel right yet, even if you’re scared, even if you get crickets. You have to be putting things out into the world.”
“Put it out there, do it scared, show up for your life, and you will start to naturally niche down.”
Behind the scenes there is so much happening, good and bad and struggle and strife and challenges and all of it. There are plenty more things that could be on this list, but these are the ones that pop out to me right now.
In case I’m not alone (please tell me I’m not!) and you’re struggling with some of these things too, be sure to snag the fromie with some of my favorite Scaling Up episodes!.
Thank you for giving me a safe place to be vulnerable and feel like I’m talking to my friends <3
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